Today’s topic is on mothers whose husbands are not saved and want nothing to do with God. This is such a hard topic because no one knows what these dear mothers go through unless they are in the same boat. Many of these mothers were saved after they got married, so it’s not because they disobeyed God and married an unsaved man. This marriage is a daily battle between good and evil, and God’s spiritual armor is working overtime! This dear mother sees her home through spiritual lenses, trying to navigate these challenges with a heart full of faith and hope. She has godly glasses on and sees clearly what is going on in her home, often recognizing the subtle influences that seek to draw her children away from the truth. A good example is when Dad drinks alcohol in front of his children or he gambles his paycheck away. Mom is running interference as she battles for the souls of her children which can only be done with prayer, seeking wisdom in her decisions. Dad’s actions say one thing while her teachings say another. This creates a difficult gap that requires her to be both a loving mother and a steadfast guardian of her children’s faith. The tears she sheds are many, especially when she sees her child follow in Dad’s footsteps. She feels the weight of the spiritual responsibility resting upon her shoulders. In moments of doubt, she clings to the promise that God is with her in these trials, giving her strength to continue her important work, knowing that her unwavering love and perseverance can make a lasting impact on her family’s spiritual journey.
Psalm 6:6 I am weary with my groaning; all the night make I my bed to swim; I water my couch with my tears.
This dear mother may sometimes get so weary in this battle that she wonders if God is even present as the problems continue to exist day after day, each one seemingly more discouraging than the last. She feels all alone in her fight against the enemy and believe me it is a fight! When these battles are not given to the Lord daily, the weight of her struggles will often grow heavier with time, leaving her feeling isolated and overwhelmed. She may also wonder if God even loves her, questioning her worth in moments of deep despair. These battles are real, and the enemy doesn’t play fair. He will keep at it until Mom caves in to the pressure. Couples should be going through life’s challenges together, supporting each other through thick and thin, but this woman is alone in this particular spiritual battle, wrestling with doubt and fear in the silence of her heart. Furthermore, she can’t even turn to her husband to discuss the matter because he will look at her like she has two heads! My heart cries out for these mothers who face such trials. Every day presents a different challenge: the endless responsibilities, the unyielding pressures, and the emotional toll that can leave her feeling depleted. What would she do without the Lord guiding her steps and providing strength in her weakness? God does love you, dear mother, and He is ever present, even when you don’t feel that He is; He walks with you in the shadows and shines His light on the path ahead, reminding you that you are never truly alone in your fight.
Jeremiah 31:3 The LORD hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee.
Psalm 46:1 To the chief Musician for the sons of Korah, A Song upon Alamoth. God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.
This same God who loves you and is an ever-present help in times of trouble is also deeply involved in your prodigals’ lives! You cannot be so overwhelmed with the path your children are headed down that you miss the profound truth of His unwavering presence and guidance. These are the very traits of God—His love, patience, and grace—that will be at work in your children, slowly but surely drawing them back to Him. Remember, no matter how far they stray, His hand is never too short to reach them. His reach goes down to the deepest depths. He knows them since the moment He knit them in your womb, dear mother. HE has covered them since that moment, so He won’t abandon them.
Psalm 139:7-13 Whither shall I go from thy spirit? or whither shall I flee from thy presence? ( 8 ) If I ascend up into heaven, thou art there: if I make my bed in hell, behold, thou art there. (9) If I take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea; (10) Even there shall thy hand lead me, and thy right hand shall hold me. (11) If I say, Surely the darkness shall cover me; even the night shall be light about me. (12) Yea, the darkness hideth not from thee; but the night shineth as the day: the darkness and the light are both alike to thee. (13) For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother’s womb.
Husbands who have neglected their family’s spiritual growth will indeed be held accountable by God. For you, dear mother, be encouraged because the Lord joys over you with singing because of your faithfulness and unwavering prayers. Your steadfast love and commitment to your children do not go unnoticed; they are part of that tapestry I speak of that God is weaving in their lives, creating a beautiful story of redemption and hope that you will one day marvel at. In moments of doubt or struggle, remember that your role is vital, and the prayers you utter sound loudly in the heavenly realms. God hears them.
Zephaniah 3:17 The LORD thy God in the midst of thee is mighty; he will save, he will rejoice over thee with joy; he will rest in his love, he will joy over thee with singing.
Will you make mistakes? Yes! Will you feel like you’re alone? Yes! But what you “feel” is not the end of it all; it is simply a part of your journey. God is faithful, and His Spirit will work in your wayward children, just as He did in your own life, guiding them back with love and compassion. You cannot bear this burden alone, nor were you meant to; the strength to persevere comes from trusting in Him. This cross that God has called you to bear is one that He helps you to carry, reminding you that His presence is always with you. He wants you to help others who carry the same cross, dear mother, for there is strength in community and healing in your experiences. He will never allow your burden to become so great that it is unbearable, even when it feels overwhelming and the weight seems too heavy to lift. In fact, God Himself promises that He will give you rest, replenishing your weary spirit and rejuvenating your heart, so you can continue to walk this difficult path with grace and resilience. Embrace His support, lean into Him, and remember that you are never truly alone in this journey.
Matthew 11:28-30 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. (29) Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. (30) For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
A two-fold home sometimes produces wayward children, but not all of them. I have seen women who have literally raised her children all by herself while her unsaved husband was away serving his Country. Her children turned out to be great men and women of God. For whatever reason, she was not called to carry this cross. But that is not the case in today’s scenario. Each household is different. Each mother is a different creation of God, and she is given a unique task that only she can handle. Use this to honor and glorify your Heavenly Father! Like Job, you will come forth as gold.
Job 23:10 But he knoweth the way that I take: when he hath tried me, I shall come forth as gold.
